Forgiveness is giving up the right to hurt another person in return. Restoration is the process by which a broken relationship is put back together again.
Are You Willing To Be The Good Samaritan?
Angelisa Daly, Youth United for Christ, India
We are the busy beings of the twenty first century, caught amongst meetings, deadlines and dates, facing tremendous pressure and stress. We are inevitably concerned with ourselves, and only ourselves.
It’s not a perfect world. People fight over things. Lifelong friends experience painful fall-out. Teenagers have to face teenage issues in school. Youth experience worldly pressures and the elderly battle loneliness and suffering.
When that happens, it becomes your problem too! How you may ask?
When did we become so caught up with just “me” and forget about “we”? Whenever anyone asks us for a favor we usually tend to think and often ask, what’s in it for me? It’s high time we snap out of this selfishness and contemplate on something Jesus asked us to be mindful of in the Gospel of Luke. “Love one another as I have loved you” is a stark and staggering reminder even as it is a reminder of our slumber to a world we have lived in oblivion towards.
In a world that pushes us to reward the greatest “I”, do we find time to love and care for our neighbor as we would poignantly do for ourselves? The very popular narrative of the Good Samaritan in Luke 10:25-37 gives us an opportunity to begin anew.
Reflecting on this very familiar passage, here are some simple ways in which we can choose to be The Good Samaritan’ a life of thoughtfulness and kindness that so rightful fits the portrait of our Christian life.
DON’T IGNORE IT
I often get tempted to pretend like I don’t see the problem. Resolving isn’t all that bad, sometimes all you really have to do is, listen, and when I say listen I mean listen and not hear.
MAKE IT A LEARNING EXPERIENCE
When caught up in situations, help the parties involved to understand the other’s perspective and help them realise where they went wrong and how it could have been handled better. Help them learn from the entire situation and take cues so that you can avoid conflicts in future.
Ah, now this is a slightly tough task. Forgiving isn’t all that easy to some. But, forgiveness means giving up the right to hurt another person in return. Jesus commanded us to forgive one another, even when we don’t want to. Thus, forgiveness is not an attitude, but an action.
Restoration and forgiveness are altogether different from each other. Forgiveness is giving up the right to hurt another person in return. Restoration is the process by which a broken relationship is put back together again. However, not every broken relationship is put back together. Misunderstanding this difference is a source of a lot of conflict in most relationships.
If you continually hurt a person, they can forgive you AND decide not to be around as much.
INCULCATE A SENSE OF UNITY
Find common ground. Maybe try making them work together on something or start a common topic which interests both. They need to realise that they are not the only ones who go through conflicts, they do agree on some matters after all and these common points could spark off their friendship yet again.
I often am reminded of a beautiful quote by Saint Teresa of Calcutta which inspires me greatly, “We cannot do great things on this Earth, only small things with great love.”
Go, look for your neighbor and seek the people in need; be the Good Samaritan you desire and so find the joy of the Gospel